Hurting people hurt people. Derwin and Vicki Gray of Transformation Church (near Charlotte, North Carolina) honestly describe the damage they have caused others by overfunctioning as leaders, and discuss the wisdom gained on the receiving end of ministry pain.
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Quotes:
“Jesus died for your church; we don’t have to.”
“The best thing Vicki and I can give Transformation Church is a healthy, Spirit-filled, gracious, wise, humble leadership.”
“I think it’s important for us to have people around us who have no benefit from our ascension or descension. We need character-filled people who say, ‘I love you for you.'”
“Our mourning is an exercise in saying, ‘God this hurts. This isn’t right.’ … Our God is very familiar with mourning.”
“She reminded me, ‘You are not Transformation Church. You are the beloved of Jesus.'”
“Own the aspects where you allow toxic dysfunction to fester. People are not looking for perfect leaders. Intuitively, we know perfection doesn’t exist. But humility is rare.”
“My overfunctioning was causing someone else to underfunction. And that’s very dangerous.”
“I sensed (God saying), ‘You’re so hurt because you were doing it for them and not for Me.'”
“The greatest joy is being obedient to the God who loves me so much.”
“We want to be healthy, joyful people even in the midst of hurt.”
Show Credits:
Executive Producer: Joy Allmond
Produced and Edited by: Angie Elkins Media
Original Music by: Robert Elkins
Art Work by: Cameron Spooner